2 guests! So many juicy quickies! Badass writer/comedian Emma Tattenbaum-Fine and sex ed superstar Francisco Ramirez (he’s back!!) join us to throw down about various and sundry things including: sexuality is not a luxury, making decisions based on love (not fear), sex tips from porn star Stoya, taking time to prioritize sex, facts versus feelings, pubic hair, why there are so few women in the film industry, UTIs and yeast infections, puppy play, enjoying sex in a non-traditionally sexual way, “The Sessions” with Helen Hunt, and more. Then we have a longer conversation about when to call shit out versus when to create onramps for dialogue about patriarchy and rape culture – we want YOUR thoughts on this, too. Plus, a special bonus interview segment with Charlie Williams, the founder/developer of the new Cuddlr app!

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Somatic sexuality educator Dr. Charlie Glickman of MakeSexEasy.com (and co-author of “The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure”) joins us to discuss his super wise insights on relationships and the nuances of relationships to relationships. He shares some moving stories about helping clients move past sexual shame through hands-on coaching. We collectively address listener questions including: How can I fully express my masculinity without being a dick? When part of the turn-on is not talking about things, how do you establish boundaries? And how do you have a causal hook-up and also be sure you’re not hurting someone? The wide range of possibilities of pleasure in anal sex and the wide range of feelings and fears about anal pleasure. Being bold versus being aggressive. Stephanie and Charlie recommend awesome books about non-violent communication and asexuality, and Dave shares about how he was asked to formally object to yet another wedding. Plus, our first round of happy healthy (and these particular ones are super extra gorgeous) break-up stories. Our listeners are the sexiest AND the most beautiful, yo.

Listen to Episode 19.

Spoiler alert: we are hugely in favor of lube. Avital Isaacs, burlesque performer and education coordinator for Babeland NYC, is our guest of honor. She shares about her journey in getting comfortable with her own body, her views about bachelorette parties, and how she taught her friends about the clitoris at age 11. Where is the line, in a relationship, where you should keep working on things, or recognize it is not working and move on? Should people break up more, in general? And does anybody really use lube every time they have sex? Is there something wrong with you if you are sometimes “not wet enough” or if certain sex positions actually hurt? How do you find people to date when you are queer, not totally out, and not good at being the initiator? Types of lube that are healthier for your body than others. Some technicalities of anal sex. New legislation on affirmative consent in California. Cheers to the film “The Obvious Child”. And because if can’t be said enough: lube, lube, and MORE LUBE!!

Listen to Episode 18

The extraordinary sex/relationships geek Reid Mihalko (reidaboutsex.com) is our guest of honor this time! He throws down some great wisdom about how to “date your species”, how to discover what works for you and how best to communicate about what works for you, how to find your “win-wins” and your “dealbreakers”, how he thinks we should be looking at depth (not duration) to measure the value of a connection, and much much more. We address questions including: is polyamory a phase to be “grown out of”? How do you communicate that you are interested in someone sexually and still affirm that you are into them as a whole person? How do people with penises keep from coming too quickly when thrusting inside a partner? And what if your partner is not a “talking about things” sort of person?

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Dear SFSP Community, in order to make this thing sustainable in the future, we need to reach out to you! Please listen to this (informative! entertaining!) seven minute message to learn about some super simple ways you can help. And/or check out patreon.com/sexforsmartpeople. Plus, Actual Fox News! Dave’s morning brain! Invisible tote bags!

A whole crowd of smart sexy people and our guest of honor, the ridiculously vibrant and kind Francisco Ramirez, join us for a live-taping/party at 3B Brooklyn. We start with exciting additions to our mission statement! And then we talk to Francisco about his work as a sexuality consultant with MTV and the U.N., and he shares about the most common questions he got asked when giving free dating advice in public parks. We all address questions from those in the room, including: When you are interested in somebody new, at what point do you share that you are in an open relationship? (Francisco an Stephanie do a saucy role play about this one!) If you are weary of affirmations and platitudes and relationships in general and feel like giving up, should you… give up? And Jillian Buckley joins us to address a question about how to move from feeling pressure to be desirable- to being in touch with what you actually desire and want in your relationships. You’re all invited to a Defectives Party with Francisco. Hear the sexiest possible song about enthusiastic consent from Love Songs for the Rest of Us. Learn what everyone in the room that night thinks is the sexiest. And don’t miss the orgy-of-a-Quickies-segment with guests from former episodes! We so glad and grateful to be in conversation with you all, and we are super proud of this one, yo. Bring your full self here.

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